About the Author

I’m a software consultant, husband, and father who was diagnosed with Asperger’s/autism in midlife—after decades of feeling functional but fundamentally misaligned with the world around me.

For most of my life, I assumed the problem was effort. If something felt hard, I believed I just wasn’t trying hard enough. Work, relationships, conversation, social life—I treated each struggle as a personal failure rather than a pattern.

In my late forties, I finally encountered a framework that fit. Autism didn’t change my past, but it changed how I understood it. Behaviors that once looked like weakness started to look like wiring. Misfits became explanations instead of verdicts.

I wrote this memoir the same way I approach complex systems: by documenting what actually happened, looking for repeatable patterns, and resisting tidy narratives that don’t match the data. It isn’t a story about being “fixed.” It’s about seeing clearly enough to stop fixing the wrong thing.

This site exists for people who recognize themselves—or someone they care about—in that experience. If you’ve ever felt capable but out of sync, this may sound familiar.

If you’d like to be an early reader, share feedback, or hear when the book is released, you can reach me at info@iwaswireddifferently.com.